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2015-03-24 17:13

Heather Barwick is a South Carolina mother of four who was raised by a lesbian mother. Formerly an advocate for gay marriage, she’s now speaking out against same-sex unions and parenting after witnessing her “children loving and being loved by their father each day” and the “beauty and wisdom in traditional marriage and parenting.”

“Gay community, I am your daughter. My mom raised me with her same-sex partner back in the ’80s and ’90s,” writes the 31-year-old in a new essay for The Federalist. “I’m writing to you because I’m letting myself out of the closet: I don’t support gay marriage. But it might not be for the reasons that you think. It’s not because you’re gay. I love you, so much. It’s because of the nature of the same-sex relationship itself.”

Barwick’s essay, titled ‘Dear Gay Community: Your Kids Are Hurting,’ sheds light on her childhood experience. She was just 2 or 3-years-old when her mother left her father for a woman, at which point her dad “didn’t bother coming around anymore.” Her mother’s new partner was nice enough and the young Barwick “also inherited her tight-knit community of gay and lesbian friends.”

Still, these extra friends could never fill a very important void that was left when Barwick’s mother replaced her father with a female lover.

“Same-sex marriage and parenting withholds either a mother or father from a child while telling him or her that it doesn’t matter. That it’s all the same. But it’s not,” Barwick writes. “A lot of us, a lot of your kids, are hurting. My father’s absence created a huge hole in me, and I ached every day for a dad. I loved my mom’s partner, but another mom could never have replaced the father I lost.”

Bingo.

No matter how loud the left shouts their battle cries of acceptance and equality, there are certain things which cannot be replaced, which inherently are not equal or the same. One of these things, which is perhaps the most crucial and controversial, is the existence of a mother and a father as a family unit.